Questions and Answers
How do I find a “matching” therapist?
It is extremely important whom you choose to be your therapist. I believe that one of the reasons for people often being disappointed and dissatisfied with the process and results of psychotherapy is the absence of the “match” between a client and a psychotherapist.
A therapist, who “matches” you, is the one with whom you can develop a trusting, open, and genuine relationship. It has been proven by many empirical studies, that this kind of relationship is a necessary condition for psychotherapy to be successful.
Although there are certainly many competent and talented psychotherapists to whom you can safely bring the truths of your life, it is hard to find the one who will match specifically with you. As in any relationship, there is “interpersonal chemistry” involved in a relationship between a client and a therapist. If the fit between you and a specific therapist does not work, the therapy is likely to be unsuccessful. Yet, you may benefit from working with other therapists and that therapist may be able to work effectively with other clients.
In order to find the right therapist for you, it is important to do the following two things:
- Shopping around: trying one or two sessions with several psychotherapists.
- Listening to your gut feelings: asking yourself with which therapist you feel safe, confident, and motivated for change? With which therapist you could be yourself?
Can I benefit from psychotherapy if I read self-help books?
If you read self-help books on psychology, spirituality, and personal growth, it is wonderful! I will gladly share with you the list of books that have had a profound influence on my own personal and professional development (See references)
In today’s information-oriented world, the” I know it all” attitude is very common. “Knowing” is undoubtedly important. “Experiencing”, however, is different. “Experiencing in a genuine, non-judgmental professional relationship with another human being” is unique and special. Precisely, this experience differentiates the process of psychotherapy from a self-help process.
Can I afford psychotherapy?
Different therapists have different fees for their services. Many therapists accept insurance and many do not. Although I participate in some insurance networks, I do not bill insurance, and ask my clients to pay for their sessions out of pocket. However, those clients that are members of the insurance networks that I participate in may receive reimbursements for my services from their insurance.
My services are affordable because I use a sliding fee scale that fits different people’s budgets.
How long does psychotherapy last?
It is impossible to answer this question a priori. Some people need only a few sessions to resolve their issues while others choose to do more in depth work and need a longer period of time. Usually, clients know when it is time for them to end their therapy. Some of the signs that indicate the resolution of an effective therapeutic process are as follows:
- A client feels significantly better, and his or her symptoms steadily subsided
- A client knows what to do when he or she does not feel good
- A client understands him or herself better
- A client loves and accepts him or herself more and has a higher self-confidence
- A client communicates more effectively with other people.